You can do more than you give yourself credit for.
Failure is not final.
An attempt that does not align with your target does not mean you have to bail on your efforts.
If you slipped off your diet or missed an “important” appointment or whatever your blunder happens to be, stop adding “back-story” to it. “Back-story” is all the negative internal and external things that we tell ourselves as to what this failed attempt means. Like a virtual news reporter here are some of the back-stories we tell ourselves: “This happened because I’m just stupid…I can’t believe I was dumb enough to…I’m an idiot…I’m not good enough to win that account…”, etc.
Why does it have to “mean” something? Why can’t it just be a mistake? Why do we have to wrap your entire self-worth around an event that didn’t go the way we wanted it to? Why do we choose to get on the fear and self-loathing ride that is going nowhere but down, and really fast?
These things don’t have to be. The first thing that usually happens when we make a mistake of whatever nature it happens to be is that, we are complete and utter “failures”, unworthy of the air that we are breathing.
When we jump on this train of thought what usually happens is that we settle for things that we really don’t want.
We want more, we want higher and better but we can’t. Why? Well, because we “failed” of course. This is garbage. A failed attempt is nothing more than feedback on what may not be the best route to take in a particular endeavor. Rejection is nothing more than positive redirection.
Learn to give yourself credit for the good things that are in you, the good things that you’ve done, and the good things that you can create. To say that no one is perfect is stating the obvious. That is what personal development is all about. The people that get on in this life are those that acknowledge where they missed it and they simply take actions to fix it. It’s that hard and it’s that easy.
In business, career, relationships, health, finances, or whatever area you can possibly think of, give yourself credit. Every attempt may not be a home run, but if you don’t step up to the plate it is guaranteed that you will never hit one. Baseball legend, Babe Ruth said, “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.” Every unsuccessful attempt brings you closer to a better result if you learn from it. So what if you failed on that particular attempt, at least you tried. Plus, look how far you’ve come, not how far you have left to go. Celebrate your progress.
Give yourself credit, stop wrapping twisted self-loathing stories around unsuccessful attempts and step up to the plate and take another swing. It’s time to play the game of life. Sitting on the bench because of a poor performance isn’t helping you or the team, i.e., the people that are counting on you.
Craig L. Sanders
The Comeback Specialist
www.craiglsanders.com
Showing posts with label Comebacks. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Comebacks. Show all posts
9/28/10
Your Comeback is Waiting on You
Setbacks are a part of life. We all face them in relationships, career, business, etc.
The question is not whether setbacks exist or will they come? The question is how we deal with them when they do?
Setbacks is a term that has been coined for things that have been perceived as impeding progress toward a destination or goal, and usually viewed as a negative occurrence.
Most people when experiencing a setback entertain thoughts of doubt, fear, uncertainty, worry and a host of other emotions.
Setbacks are not necessarily negative. Setbacks can be one of the most positive things that ever happen to you, a business partner, a co-worker, a company, or a friend. Why? Because setbacks shake the nest so that we can spread are wings and fly.
Setbacks jolt us out of comfort zones so that we can use our creative ability to find new and better solutions.
Regarding our emotions, we must remember that we are effective owners. Emotions are like employees, they must be managed for optimum results. We must manage our own emotions; no one else will do it for us.
Regarding comebacks, you can have one anytime you get good and ready. Your comeback is not holding back on you. You are holding back on your comeback. How you may ask?
Comebacks are like teammates on a winning football team. You are the quarterback calling the plays. If you don’t call the play, give the team direction, and “hike” the ball then no one else on the field will move. As a matter of fact, when quarterbacks take too long to call and start a play the referee issues a penalty called, “Delay of Game”. Comebacks are simply waiting on your creative and effective daily activity. Don’t delay your own game by refusing to take action.
What actions will you take today to move yourself closer to the goals that you really want? The dream job or client that you want is waiting. You can create or improve any professional or personal relationship that you want. You bring great value to the table, go tell somebody about it. It all requires simple, consistent, and effective action.
Your past doesn’t matter; move into today with fresh creative action. The ball is in your hands. Call the play, get the ball moving, and rack up enough points to win for today. Your comeback is waiting on you.
Craig L. Sanders
The Comeback Specialist
http://www.craiglsanders.com/
The question is not whether setbacks exist or will they come? The question is how we deal with them when they do?
Setbacks is a term that has been coined for things that have been perceived as impeding progress toward a destination or goal, and usually viewed as a negative occurrence.
Most people when experiencing a setback entertain thoughts of doubt, fear, uncertainty, worry and a host of other emotions.
Setbacks are not necessarily negative. Setbacks can be one of the most positive things that ever happen to you, a business partner, a co-worker, a company, or a friend. Why? Because setbacks shake the nest so that we can spread are wings and fly.
Setbacks jolt us out of comfort zones so that we can use our creative ability to find new and better solutions.
Regarding our emotions, we must remember that we are effective owners. Emotions are like employees, they must be managed for optimum results. We must manage our own emotions; no one else will do it for us.
Regarding comebacks, you can have one anytime you get good and ready. Your comeback is not holding back on you. You are holding back on your comeback. How you may ask?
Comebacks are like teammates on a winning football team. You are the quarterback calling the plays. If you don’t call the play, give the team direction, and “hike” the ball then no one else on the field will move. As a matter of fact, when quarterbacks take too long to call and start a play the referee issues a penalty called, “Delay of Game”. Comebacks are simply waiting on your creative and effective daily activity. Don’t delay your own game by refusing to take action.
What actions will you take today to move yourself closer to the goals that you really want? The dream job or client that you want is waiting. You can create or improve any professional or personal relationship that you want. You bring great value to the table, go tell somebody about it. It all requires simple, consistent, and effective action.
Your past doesn’t matter; move into today with fresh creative action. The ball is in your hands. Call the play, get the ball moving, and rack up enough points to win for today. Your comeback is waiting on you.
Craig L. Sanders
The Comeback Specialist
http://www.craiglsanders.com/
12/30/09
10 Things You Can Do To Make a Comeback In 2010
1) Forget the drama and the details and remember the lesson
Take all the emotion out of the heated conversation that you had with a coworker, business partner, or loved one and just make whatever adjustments that are necessary. Forget the minor details that didn’t matter and remember the major points that will help move things forward. There is no need to psychoanalyze your last failure, just make the needed changes. What was the lesson that you learned? Simply apply the lesson and move on.
2) Live in the moment
Dwelling on past failures is one of the biggest de-motivators that people encounter. Even dwelling on previous victories cannot help you much if you refuse to take action in the present moment. Decide to be done with the past and create something new by living fully in this moment.
3) Be patient
Rome was not conquered in a day and neither will your dreams be totally fulfilled or your goals accomplished right away. Be determined to take small steps everyday and don’t get frustrated with your progress. Be patient with the process. Beating up on yourself will not help anything. Encouraging yourself will help a lot. Patience is another word for persistence.
4) Be positive
Be an optimist. What do you have to lose? Being positive motivates. Being negative is like having a heavy weight on your back that hinders progress. Expect the best. Look for things to change for the better even if you don’t know how they will. Smile when you are tempted to frown and things will eventually come around!
5) Help someone else make a comeback
One of the greatest ways to pull yourself up is to help someone else up. What you make happen for someone else, you are also making happen for yourself. Helping others gets your focus off of your own challenges. When you help others you will also feel better. Helping others is a win-win situation.
6) Get a coach or a mentor
“There are two ways to learn, mistakes and mentors.” –Mike Murdock
A coach or a mentor will shorten the distance to any goal. When you talk to someone who has been where you are trying to go or knows more about an area in which you are struggling, your frustration factor will be significantly reduced. Your odds of being successful increase exponentially the moment you connect with a mentor.
7) Network
“Teamwork makes the dream work.” –John C. Maxwell
Some of the greatest businesses and products that were ever created took place because someone stepped out of their comfort zone and networked. Actively network with others in your field of interest. Make a practice of reaching outside of your circle whether in person or via social media. If you are the smartest person in your circle, than you are probably hindering your future growth.
8) Read
Leaders are readers. If you are going to get better at anything then you must expand your knowledge. Whether it is taking a class, reading a book, or doing on-line research recommit to being a lifelong learner. It will earn you residual benefits in the future.
9) Exercise and eat right
Commit to a consistent exercise program, even if you only walk for 30 minutes per day. The benefits of consistent exercise and proper nutrition are well documented. One of the benefits of exercise and nutrition is you will feel better. When you feel better you will want to achieve more of your goals and will have the energy to follow through.
10) Reposition yourself
Your identity is separate from your position or performance. You are not a failure just because you failed at something. You are not less of a human because you lost a contract or a job. You still have high value to offer to others. You can change your life or position or endeavor anytime you get ready. If one venture did not work out try something else. Have fun being creative with what you can be and do. Repositioning your life is simply a choice that you make. Sometimes failure is not so much about you as much as the methods that you were using. Change your methods and you can change your life.
Implement these 10 Keys and make your comeback in 2010.
Tell me your answer to the following question:
What do you think most often holds people back from achieving their goals?
Let me hear back from you.
2010 is the year for your comeback!
Craig L. Sanders
The Comeback Specialist
http://www.craiglsanders.com/
To retain Craig as your coach or to have him speak for your company or organization give Craig a call at (888) 333-5821 or visit his website: http://www.craiglsanders.com/
Copyright 2009 Craig Sanders Unlimited, LLC
Take all the emotion out of the heated conversation that you had with a coworker, business partner, or loved one and just make whatever adjustments that are necessary. Forget the minor details that didn’t matter and remember the major points that will help move things forward. There is no need to psychoanalyze your last failure, just make the needed changes. What was the lesson that you learned? Simply apply the lesson and move on.
2) Live in the moment
Dwelling on past failures is one of the biggest de-motivators that people encounter. Even dwelling on previous victories cannot help you much if you refuse to take action in the present moment. Decide to be done with the past and create something new by living fully in this moment.
3) Be patient
Rome was not conquered in a day and neither will your dreams be totally fulfilled or your goals accomplished right away. Be determined to take small steps everyday and don’t get frustrated with your progress. Be patient with the process. Beating up on yourself will not help anything. Encouraging yourself will help a lot. Patience is another word for persistence.
4) Be positive
Be an optimist. What do you have to lose? Being positive motivates. Being negative is like having a heavy weight on your back that hinders progress. Expect the best. Look for things to change for the better even if you don’t know how they will. Smile when you are tempted to frown and things will eventually come around!
5) Help someone else make a comeback
One of the greatest ways to pull yourself up is to help someone else up. What you make happen for someone else, you are also making happen for yourself. Helping others gets your focus off of your own challenges. When you help others you will also feel better. Helping others is a win-win situation.
6) Get a coach or a mentor
“There are two ways to learn, mistakes and mentors.” –Mike Murdock
A coach or a mentor will shorten the distance to any goal. When you talk to someone who has been where you are trying to go or knows more about an area in which you are struggling, your frustration factor will be significantly reduced. Your odds of being successful increase exponentially the moment you connect with a mentor.
7) Network
“Teamwork makes the dream work.” –John C. Maxwell
Some of the greatest businesses and products that were ever created took place because someone stepped out of their comfort zone and networked. Actively network with others in your field of interest. Make a practice of reaching outside of your circle whether in person or via social media. If you are the smartest person in your circle, than you are probably hindering your future growth.
8) Read
Leaders are readers. If you are going to get better at anything then you must expand your knowledge. Whether it is taking a class, reading a book, or doing on-line research recommit to being a lifelong learner. It will earn you residual benefits in the future.
9) Exercise and eat right
Commit to a consistent exercise program, even if you only walk for 30 minutes per day. The benefits of consistent exercise and proper nutrition are well documented. One of the benefits of exercise and nutrition is you will feel better. When you feel better you will want to achieve more of your goals and will have the energy to follow through.
10) Reposition yourself
Your identity is separate from your position or performance. You are not a failure just because you failed at something. You are not less of a human because you lost a contract or a job. You still have high value to offer to others. You can change your life or position or endeavor anytime you get ready. If one venture did not work out try something else. Have fun being creative with what you can be and do. Repositioning your life is simply a choice that you make. Sometimes failure is not so much about you as much as the methods that you were using. Change your methods and you can change your life.
Implement these 10 Keys and make your comeback in 2010.
Tell me your answer to the following question:
What do you think most often holds people back from achieving their goals?
Let me hear back from you.
2010 is the year for your comeback!
Craig L. Sanders
The Comeback Specialist
http://www.craiglsanders.com/
To retain Craig as your coach or to have him speak for your company or organization give Craig a call at (888) 333-5821 or visit his website: http://www.craiglsanders.com/
Copyright 2009 Craig Sanders Unlimited, LLC
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